In the past, via mention and links, I have referred to my wife’s blog. I tend to find it rather creative, thoughtful, and worthy of my reflection. But then again, I did choose to marry her. That might explain it.
She actually has two blogs. The first, previously mentioned and linked at various times, is pretty much wide open. Everyone from her mom to my friends read it. When she posts, she tweets out the update. It shows up on her Facebook news feed. It even has a cheesy little picture of her on the home page (sorry honey…but it is an old cruise picture with me cropped out…what can I say?). If you haven’t checked it out, you should – Once Upon a Sunny Day.
However, she also has another blog. This one is more anonymous. I doubt her mom, my mom, or any other mom we know personally is familiar with it. Mainly because they aren’t familiar with our “situation.” Or my “condition.” We just have never seen any upside to them sharing in our journey at that level. Maybe that is selfish. Maybe that seems odd when speaking of our family and parents. Then again, maybe we know them…and you don’t have said pleasure.
My wife started this second blog back in November. It was her desire to…well…why don’t I just let her tell you -
“My husband was diagnosed as bipolar earlier this year. We’ve been married twenty-two years. We have two teenage children, one of which will begin college in the fall.
“I decided yesterday, without much thought, to begin a blog about this. I’m hoping to receive support from other wives who are facing this. I’m hoping to connect and help and learn. I enjoy writing. I enjoy research. So, why not?
“Here’s to us, the supporters of those facing bipolar-ness. Help me if you can! I thank you in advance.”
Once again, it is creative, thoughtful, and worthy of my reflection. Largely because there are certain things we have a hard time talking about: the male insatiable desire for sex, the Pioneer Woman (no connection to my insatiable desire for sex), personal feelings of insecurity and failure, and the fact that I am a freaking loon (or more clinically…bipolar). Just like my blog is for her more than any of you (don’t be offended…again, I choose to marry her), this new blog of her’s gives me an insight into her side of this struggle/battle/challenge/whateverthehellitis (I love how Twitter has freed us to run words together like an endless hash tag!).
She seems to be finding her groove as she goes along, and I found her latest post regarding the holidays the most insightful yet.
Anyway, maybe there are some of you out there reading this, who are actually part of the support network of someone like me (God help you!). If so, it just might be the kind of thing you enjoy (?) reading from time to time, and maybe even a place where you can do some of your own emotional vomiting as you do the best you can to support your child, spouse, or friend.
Check it out at – Let Us Not Mince Words
She probably won’t appreciate my pimping it (a term that she hates it when I use!), but then again…she choose to marry me.